Surviving loneliness


Your internal battle

What most people who have never had Scabies or lice or bedbugs probably can’t fully understand is how much of the battle with these things is in the area of the mind and emotions.  It’s one thing to put medications on your body.  It’s quite another to deal with the feelings associated with having something like Scabies:  feeling unclean, possibly misunderstood, concerns and fears about passing Scabies to someone else, nagging questions about how long this might last, and the loneliness that can come with having to quarantine yourself.

SadHow will you survive that loneliness? 

I can’t think of anything that makes it easy.  However, I can tell you what I did, down to the very words I prayed every night before I went to sleep in a room alone, purposefully cut off from all my family members.

This is where faith in God really comes in.  My story would not be complete without this part about how the closeness of God in times of loneliness really did sustain me.  If you don’t believe in God, or you don’t believe that a sense of His presence can be a real thing, you are fully entitled to your opinion.  I just have to tell you how this played out for me.

A lot of people I know, and I’m not just talking about people from one religious faith tradition, believe that God actually uses the difficult times in our lives as a way to grow our character and make us better people.  That’s how I am looking at this.  So every night I can remember having to sleep alone because of Scabies I would pray, “You are the Lord, and there is no other.”  Sometimes I would pray, “You are my Lord, and I have no other.” 

Nothing magical

There’s nothing at all magical about those words or any other words.  All I’m saying is, if you’re feeling any kind of desperation in feelings of loneliness, the best thing to do with those feelings is to find a way to declare your dependence and trust in God.  I guess we human beings are just so easily distracted by everything when things are going great for us, that when they’re not going so well we feel—and act on—a fresh intensity to depend on God.  If that is the case with you, you won’t be disappointed.  Even though I personally would never have chosen to have Scabies, the intensity in my faith because of that intensity in dependence on God was something I became very grateful for.

Bigger than any one of us

And yes, there is one other thing I can offer you.  The blogs on this site can be a place to talk with others who are facing some of the same things you are.  Please take advantage of them.  And remember that if you want to talk to me, I’m only an e-mail away.


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